Bitchiness is not a Crime

Just another woman who try to look wise

The reason to tie the knot

The sex was fantastic.

As a friend told me for his reason to marry his current wife, and for that he admits that it was a wrong reason to ever get married. He agrees with me that all a great marriage need is sexy intelligent conversation, it lasts for a lifetime, he said.

Hmm… makes me wonder, is it really the case? Everyone with enough grey cells in the brain would agree that sex is not everything, but nevertheless not less important. (Although I insist that sex is overrated! It is after all a primitive way to procreate)

But what can be a good reason to tie the knot? (Don’t give me that bullsh*t of preventing oneself from sins… you are human, right? If you are, then you do have the ability to reserve and withheld yourselves – unlike most primitive beings)

I ruled out sex a long time ago as a reason.

Companionship? No need to get married to have that… really! Some of great couples in the world are not married… either because they are gay or just don’t see the need of marriage in their relationship.

Another friend told me that it is our selfish way to preserve ourselves, by passing on our genes so that a piece of us can live forever. If that is the case… you don’t need to be married!!

So here I am, sitting and thinking of a hypothetic situation where if I found anyone worthy enough to spend the rest of my life with… Well, of course I need to marry him. For a very selfish reason!! If he is worthy of a lifetime partnership, I would want him to stay by my side, never to leave me. And for that, I need a solid contract… which commonly known as ‘marriage’.

For some who follows my blog, I realised that I’ve been challenging you on marriage thing (don’t get bored yet… you might missed the big surprise on the later posts), and I hope you are clear to see that I have not found a very good reason to tie the knot.

So I talk about this with a female friend of mine (and we think highly of our brain quality), and we both agree that we will missed out the chance of preserving our genes (and all the good quality that we believe we have) if we never going to get married.

So I told her that I’m going to store my eggs while still searching for another good gene to be combined with mine (in my head I imagine I am 70 years old, meeting up with a 20 something years boy who I think compatible with my gene and sitting with a surrogate mother to be of my child hahahahaha….).

But you have to admit, that is a damn good reason to get married… in fact, that is the unconscious reason for anyone to get married (it is programmed in our DNA to do so).

I wonder… what is a logically good reason for anyone to get married? Please don’t tell me religion, it is irrational… to be married is NEVER a mandatory in any religion.

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August 28, 2009 - Posted by | B*tching, Family, In between, Marriage, Relationship, Science, Sex

19 Comments »

  1. Tell you what, the only good reason between any relationship between man and woman is sex in perticular. Search for the ‘Ladder theory’ in google. It’s quiet logical.

    Comment by jakyastikpress | August 28, 2009 | Reply

    • sex until a certain level… at the end, they will not have sex all the time, no?

      Comment by hapitri | September 1, 2009 | Reply

      • Actually, they will have sex all the time…. Only not with each other

        Comment by Damar | September 2, 2009

      • Hehehe…. and that what makes a marriage work, no?

        Comment by hapitri | September 7, 2009

  2. This friend of yours…….u said it was the reason for him to marry his current wife. How many wives has he had / does he have?

    Comment by damar | August 29, 2009 | Reply

    • well… as you can see that I am never been an optimistic person, I wouldn’t say that he will not remarry until he’s dead (then he cannot marry anyone else)
      😀

      Comment by hapitri | September 1, 2009 | Reply

  3. logical reason to get married? is the fact that we are human being and we are not animal…… they do not need to marry, they need only companionship….hihihi.

    For me, marriage is not only establishing a commitment between a man and woman, but also signing a contract with God The Creator… HE introduced us His law on marriage. HE gives us freedom to choose that would be up to us whether we would obey and follow it or disobey and leave it, all… at our own cost!
    Gracas a Deus, Espero Elle te ajudar, te mostrar e te encontrar um homem que voce procurava em sua vida….

    Comment by Irawan Danuningrat | August 30, 2009 | Reply

    • hehehe… fortunately, marriage is not mandatory in any religion 😉

      Comment by hapitri | September 1, 2009 | Reply

  4. logical reason to get married? is the fact that we are human being and we are not animal…… they do not need to marry, they need only companionship….hihihi.

    For me, marriage is not only establishing a commitment between a man and woman, but also signing a contract with God The Creator… HE introduced us His law on marriage. HE gives us freedom to choose that would be up to us whether we would obey and follow it or disobey and leave it, all… at our own cost!

    Gracas a Deus, Espero Elle te ajudar, te mostrar e te encontrar um homem que voce procurava em sua vida….

    Ate ja!

    Comment by Irawan Danuningrat | August 30, 2009 | Reply

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    • Thank you…
      ;P

      Comment by hapitri | September 16, 2009 | Reply

  6. Cinta… Love… Amor…Liebe… etc adalah pendorong dan perekat bagi setiap individu untuk “bersatu” (fisik, jiwa, cita-cita dsb).
    Karena cinta seseorang bersatu dan menikah….
    karena saling cinta 2 individu merasa bahagia….dan
    karena cinta (pada yg lain) seseorang jadi berselingkuh….

    Cinta…, begitu nikmat terasakan manusia
    Cinta…, begitu berarti bagi hidup manusia,
    Cinta…, terkadang pula begitu menyakitkan…..

    namun, mengapa tak sorangpun kuasa menciptakan, menumbuhkan atau meniadakan gelora cinta dalam hatinya?
    Karena cinta sesungguhnya adalah milik Ar-Rahman….
    Dia-lah pemilik, penguasa, pengelola dan bahkan wujud cinta itu sendiri….
    Itu sebabnya untuk mengawali setiap gerak umat islam diperintahkan untuk membaca “Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahiim”,
    agar setiap saat “aware” bahwa Dia-lah Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim.
    Logikanya, ketika menginginkan cinta, sepatutnya kita lebih mendekat diri pada Ar-Rahman, pada Cinta….., bukan justru menjauh dari-Nya.

    Selamat Idul Fitri 1430 H
    Salam sayang …..

    Comment by Irawan Danuningrat | September 17, 2009 | Reply

    • Katanya sih cinta bs di gantikan dengan coklat…. hehehe…
      Semoga kita semua tidak dibutakan oleh cinta duniawi 🙂

      Best wishes,
      H

      Comment by hapitri | September 28, 2009 | Reply

  7. Minal Aidzin Wal Fa’idzin @Mba Ayune Hafitri, Teriring salam hangat selalu.

    Comment by حَنِيفًا | September 20, 2009 | Reply

    • Salam sayang juga buat mas Haniifa…

      minal Aidzin wal’fa’idzin…

      Comment by hapitri | September 28, 2009 | Reply

  8. Minal Aidzin Wal Fa’idzin @Mba Ayune Hafitri, Teriring salam hangat selalu juga. 😀

    Comment by lovepassword | September 27, 2009 | Reply

    • Mas Eko yg dikangenin 🙂
      Maaf lahir batin juga…

      sukses dengan bukunya?

      Comment by hapitri | September 28, 2009 | Reply

  9. alasannya? so simple darling..
    like rita rudner said, i love having someone to annoy..kapan pun dimana pun 😀

    Comment by yoana | October 2, 2009 | Reply

    • hahahahaa…. bener banget yah mbak… they are stuck with us for eternity 😛
      and we at least have someone to blame things to 😀

      Comment by hapitri | October 8, 2009 | Reply


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